This daughter never obeys me. Like, ever. Unless what I want her to do is something the already planned on doing. In which case, I cannot TELL her that I agree with her or she will cease doing what I want her to. I cannot praise her until after she has completed the task. (Example: when I tell her good job for eating her dinner while she is chewing the last bite, she immediately spits the bite out. This is a true story.)
Do you see that sass?
But my, oh my, is she fun. And funny. She is bright, and sweet, and spunky. She will do anything to make others laugh (already). She loves her little friends. One of her little friends is a couple months younger than her, and occasionally gets fussy during church. (Not that it is really the being younger, because goodness knows this one gets fussy in church regardless of of being almost-two-and-a-half.) When she hears her little friend she jumps up and says "GWACIE!" She is certain that her friend needs her right away. It is pretty funny.
She is tenderhearted. She put Elmo to bed the other day before her nap. She pulled out a few wipes and wiped down his furry bottom, put a dollop of diaper cream on him, and then popped a bobbies in his mouth and covered him up.
She loves her dolls and stuffed animals, and wants a little something to snuggle with in bed. She doesn't require the same thing, and isn't particularly committed to any one stuftie above another, but Charlie never cared too much about what was in his bed, so needing to hunt down a few animals for her to pick between is a newish thing. She also wants at least five pacifiers in her bed at all times. (I know, I know, my child should not have a pacifier at this age. Too bad, she's gonna.)
She calls her brother "my Charlie" and often wonders where he is during school, and generally is pretty sad to leave him there when we drop him off.
She loves to sing the ABCs, Popcorn, and Twinkle Twinkle. She will not perform on command. She MAY perform a different song than you request though, so if you want to hear something, just ask her to sing something else.
This girl isn't much of a snuggler, but she loves to be in constant contact with me. If I am cooking or doing dishes, her favorite spot is to be wedged between me and the cupboards, standing on my feet. Even when we are not getting along, she wants me to be holding her or she wants to be dragging on my legs. It's funny because when I discipline her, Greg thinks it is his time to swoop in as favorite parent. She wants me, even after I have been the bad guy. She is a serious mama's girl.
She loves choosing. She wants to choose her outfits every day. It is a serious decision for her too. I have to threaten to not let her pick every single day before she finally chooses. (She only picks the tops usually, so I can then choose something that matches, which is helpful.)
She thinks she should get a new coat of finger and toe nail polish, in a new color, every day.
Although, he isn't always just a walk in the park. (Don't even ASK me what happened at church last week. And if you already happen to know, please do me a favor and forget it. Or at least pretend it isn't me when you tell someone else "you will NOT believe what happened..." Shudder.)
He loves to snuggle. Every single night he wants to snuggle-bug before he goes to sleep. This is 50% because he doesn't want to go to bed, but 50% because he loves having another human in bed with him. (We don't actually snuggle with him at bedtime, but we do snuggle during movies or other activities.)
He loves school. He is going to a preschool on site at an Episcopalian church with just delightful teachers and admins. I love everyone there. There are nine kids in the class, three of which are in Charlie's Sunbeam class at church (and did preschool at Miss Shauna's last year with him), so he knows and loves them already. He came home from school having learned about amoebas the other day. How precious is that?
He is a pleaser. He doesn't always obey, but he will generally do what I tell him to do. He doesn't always make the right choices, but he will if I am telling him what to do, if that makes sense. Plenty of naughtiness, but it isn't "Charlie, go do ____" and him saying "No.") If he gets in trouble, the worst part is having Mom or Dad be upset with him.
He is sloooooooow moving. No hustle. No hurry to do anything. Ever. He is a wanderer too. I think these two things go together. He goes missing in crowds sometimes, but I am never sure if he is just not keeping up, or if he is just so not-oriented toward his final destination that he meanders away.
I had a birthday. It was pretty low key, like I like it. Monday before we did a little family thing with yummy dinner and cake. On my actual birthday (pictured as an official 27-year-old below) I had to work all day. I had an early morning meeting at a seminar downtown, but they served this maple bacon that was a fabulous birthday present. Then, a girlfriend took me out to lunch, and I took myself and the kids to dinner, because I didn't feel like cooking after working all day on my birthday, and Greg had late class. I had tons of calls, texts, facebook posts, emails, and general birthday wishes, which was definitely the best part.
Also, this guy.
His recent news: started his first day of his last year of law school. The plan is as follows: graduate law school in April. (SO SOON!) Study like a maniac. Take the bar in July. Pass.
(A lot of people ask us about contingency plans in case he doesn't pass. While we generally don't entertain the thought at all, if he doesn't pass in July, he will take it again in February.)
Once he is done taking the bar, he will start working at the Ashcraft Firm (although not giving any legal advice, which he will refrain from doing until he is sworn into the bar). Eventually, he will take over as the main attorney.
Anyway, the future is near. But for now, he is taking a full class schedule, but several of his units are an internship at a sole practitioner downtown who does estate planning. Unlike many of his classmates, his internship doesn't seem to be mainly just about getting free labor. The attorney is really nice about involving Greg in every area of the business so he can really see how things go from start to finish. He is planning on adding estate planning to the repertoire of the Ashcraft Firm as soon as he starts working there. Also, added bonus, the attorney is having Greg write our estate plan as practice. So we are getting a free estate plan out of the internship.
Other than his internship, he has classes 3 times a week, but nothing too taxing. He is busy, but the stress level is significantly lower than in the last two years.
He also had a birthday. We kept things small as well, but I got him (us) a new bed! We have had the same mattress for 7 years, and it was starting to wear out. Plus, our bed frame was broken. It was the IKEA one and if you aren't familiar, they have these slats that go across the bottom of the bed, and you set your mattress on top. The slats were wearing out, and the bed was generally breaking, so any sudden movements cause your side of the bed to go crashing to the floor. Being awoken by a sudden crashing is NOT a pleasant experience. So, we have needed a new bed, but we were holding off because we wanted to get a King size at some point and we didn't really see the point of buying a new queen when we still wanted to upgrade. So, I saved up for a few months, bargain hunted like a maniac, and got it for us. For now it is just the mattresses on the floor (we are just that classy), but we have so much room! =)