Tuesday, April 27, 2010


Before dinner we always ask Charlie "who do you want to say the prayer, mommy or daddy?"

Last night, we said "do you want to say the prayer?" He said "yes" and so we were going to whisper him words to say, which we usually do when he wants to say the prayer, but he doesn't generally repeat us, so we usually are the ones giving the prayer. Anyway, he said "yes" and he he folded his arms and said "Heavenly Father, thankful day, blessings, amen."

I cried. It was so precious. AND it is nice to see that dragging ourselves to church every Sunday with a two year old is actually worth it. He is learning something!

Wednesday, April 21, 2010


What's going on in the Ashcraft home, you ask? Well, let me tell you:

As some of you may have heard, Greg got a full ride scholarship to Cal Western Law School, here in downtown San Diego. While we have not officially said "yes" yet, it would be hard to beat that offer, so he is very likely to accept. In other words, we will be hanging around the area for at least a few more years! (And, yes, after law school we plan to stay around here. He will be taking the California Bar, so he will either try and get a job in a firm somewhere in the area, or he will go straight into taking over the Ashcraft Firm, depending on what is going on when he finishes school/passes the bar.)

I got the official job offer yesterday, so I will be returning to work in July (or thereabouts). I am so excited to be able to have the best of both worlds: I really want to stay at home with my kids, but I am also so looking forward to continuing my job. I feel like for the first few months, it will be something of a trial basis, to make sure that I am still able to focus on my children as priority one and that my company is still satisfied with my performance, but they seem very on board and supportive of my decision to want to stay home, so I think all will be well, as long as I feel comfortable with the balancing act. However, even if it doesn't work out, I am very lucky to even have the opportunity, as I know many mothers who would love a situation like I have. I know I am in a minority, and I definitely feel grateful! (I am trying to write this paragraph without using the phrase "seriously, so blessed!" but I don't think there is a better way to put it. Seriously, we have been so blessed.)

The doctor says things are going right along with the measurements, etc. on baby girl. She is in the "head down" position, although she hasn't "engaged" yet (I think this means dropping down into the pelvic area... Charlie never did before I went into labor, so I am not worried). The doctor said anytime, but I am pretty sure she isn't coming until May. Maybe slightly earlier than the due date (May 14th) but I don't think much sooner. And, I don't REALLY want her to come too much earlier (okay, I SO want to be done being pregnant, but I am telling myself it is best if she doesn't come too early) because I want the full two weeks I have taken off before the due date to spend with Charlie. Which brings me to item four:

Seven more work days (including today) before I get to stay at home!!
(By the way, there happens to be an article on "take your child to work day" which talks a lot about being a stay at home mom, or working from home, or other alternative work situations which I thought was pretty interesting today on the NY Times parenting blog right here, if you are interested. It also talks about how the original concept was just for daughters to go to work to teach them that women can grow up to be successful too. Boys weren't officially added until 2003.)

Monday, April 19, 2010


So on Saturday, we changed Charlie's room into Charlie and baby's room. I am pretty pleased with the results!

Cool bookshelves: from Ikea. Also, note to self, we have too many toys.
I slaved over this closet forever, so I had to include a shot. It is so neat and clean in there! Except now all the junk we were storing in there is...sitting in my bedroom. So that project will be for next weekend.
I stayed home from work today, and so we didn't get dressed until the late afternoon, but here is Charlie playing in his newly arranged bedroom.
Eventually though, we did get dressed. Lately when I get the camera out, Charlie sticks his tongue out. Not sure.
I did a big huge cheesy smile to show him what I wanted him to do, and he copied it.
Just under four weeks before this baby is due! And I only have 8 work days left before my maternity leave! I am so ready for it (the leave, not the baby. I am ready in theory for the baby, I have diapers and the carseat and stuff, but, um, parent to two? I am terrified. Thrilled, but terrified.)

Baby Showers!

The baby and I are very lucky because we got to have TWO baby showers! =) I have wonderful friends and who were all very generous, and with whom I had lots of fun at the parties! And for those who couldn't make it: you were missed!

The first shower was held at my parent's house in Murrieta. The food was delicious.
Check out those cute cookies! And there was this caramel dip that can't actually even be spoken of because it was too delicious for words. I must get the recipe and post it on here.

Charlie joined us towards the end, once he woke up from his nap.
Grandma Pat got Charlie a present so he wouldn't feel left out. =)Jessica, her wonderful mom Kathy, my sister, and my mom all did a fabulous job. Thanks, ladies! I had a great time!The second shower was at my friend Emily's house here in San Diego and was all ladies from church.
They put up little baby clothes with clothes pins as decor. Cute and useful, because then they packaged up all the clothes and sent them home with me!
Tiffany and Emily made this cute diaper cake.

The food was also fabulous here, and please note the darling cupcakes that one of the girls in my 12-13 year old church class made! She will start a bakery someday, I am sure. (Or will it be photography that she goes into?)
All the girls in the Young Women program (12-18 year old girls) made this ladybug quilt for me.
Thanks to everyone who participated in this shower as well, especially Emily and Tiffany, and all the many people who brought yummy treats! And thanks to ALL my wonderful and generous friends. Thanks, thanks, thanks! Can't say it enough!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Monday, April 5, 2010


We had a lovely Easter this year. Started out with Charlie's basket.We got these big eggs that had matchbox cars in them (way more fun than just candy) and he loved them. Here he is showing the boat.

Then we talked about Easter and how Jesus was resurrected. We didn't show him Jesus on the cross because we thought that might be a little heavy for a two year old, but we showed him resurrected, and we said "look at the owies in his hands" and Charlie said "OH NO!" It was really funny. Later he saw the same picture we showed him up in the church building and he was pointing and showing us Jesus with the angels and his owies.
As happens almost every conference weekend, our cable somehow went out just before we were going to start watching conference. So, we rushed and got dressed and watched the morning session at the stake center. Sorry if any of you were there and our child interrupted your conference. He was all over the place. But really not too bad, for a two year old. Conference was great and I love the spiritual recharge every six months. It always seems to come right at the most needed time.

After conference, we headed over to Grandma M's for Easter with the family.

Playing with Shelby, the tortoise that is almost as old as Charlie's Grandpa Phil!
Egg hunting.
He was very serious about it. (Also very dirty, covered in both dirt and candy.)
The annual pinata.
Wesley was the one who eventually cracked the thing open; here he is with his conquest.
Something is in the water on that side of the family, because there were three of us there who are pregnant. Lauren is about 9 weeks along, Angela was I think around 29, and I am 34.
After the wonderful time at Grandma M's, we went over to Grandma H's for dinner. The food was great and the company was great, but I didn't get any pictures because my camera wasn't up to it (my cat broke it a few months back so it does well in short spurts only.)

And, I must of course mention the earthquake. It was a big one, but the thing that was so different about it was how LONG it was. We sat and sat while it shook everything, until I started to get worried it was going to toss Charlie off my grandma's bed, where he was taking a nap. So that freaked me out some, so I went tearing in there and got him off the bed. When it was over, I put him back on the bed. He never even opened his eyes. =) Since we were down in south county, we were really only like 120 miles from the epicenter of the thing. The proximity combined with the intensity makes me think it is probably the biggest one I have ever been in.